If you have ever been stuck in the middle of anything it’s often not very pleasant. To be the middle child is no exception. Parents are often very cautious with their first child, learning what to do and what not to do and doting on them when they really didn’t need to. When it comes to the second child, well they have learned and are less concerned with the daily activities, knowing better what worked the first time and what didn’t. By the time the third child has come along, generally speaking the parents have aged and the third child represents the end of the immediate family and are once again overly attentive. The middle child misses out on all that unintended lack of attention. It’s good and bad getting all those hand me downs and the lack of restrictions that are often seen as caring. It’s not true, but that is what is often makes the middle child feel less important.
How to celebrate – Make sure your middle child feels special today. If you have a daughter first, don;t hand down their old clothes to your second if hey are a boy. Reverse the order of your children from time to time, just for fun.
Are you middle child? Do you have “Middle Child Syndrome”? Do you care? I don’t, and I am the middle child. Yes, the older child is always considered the smartest (And they should be because they have more experience) and the youngest child is always the cutest (And probably should be because they are the youngest).
I am the middle child in my family and I never felt any animosity towards either the older or younger. Maybe my parents were different than others but they never treated any of us any differently then the other.
Yes there are a lot of hand-me-downs, that’s economical, yes we tended to be served food the older child liked, again… why fix food they don’t like? The fact is, the older kid gets all the mistakes their parents make while the youngest benefits from them. That’s called experience.
I am sure their are families that have had issues, there have always been and always will be. But speaking as the middle child in my family, I never suffered once from the so called “Middle Child Syndrome”. I am sorry for those that have because they are missing wonderful relationships with their brothers and sisters that they might otherwise have.
How to celebrate – Enjoy your family instead of finding fault in them. Find the benefits of being the middle child instead of the disadvantages. Enjoy who you are instead of who you might be.
The professionals say I should resent being the middle child of my family. That I am not the experiment my parents had with the first child and the cute third child that did everything right. Well, I guess I should be resentful, but I’m not. I have a wonderful older sister and an equally as wonderful younger sister. I do feel sorry for those who did not have brothers and sisters, they will never know what they are missing out on.
Or maybe it’s because my parents were so good at not making us kids feel we were any different, or maybe it’s because my sisters never made me feel like I was in the middle. To be honest I don’t think we even thought about it.
Now I realize many of you may have had a different experience. Life is full of experiences, they could be good or they could be bad. I often think it’s how we take them more than how they are intended. We need to take in consideration that we are all different people, none of us reacts exactly the same way to any set of circumstances. That said, we all also like to blame someone, or something, else so we do not have to assume the blame for our own faults.
I doubt animals even realize they are a middle child, or their mothers and fathers realize they even had a middle child. They treat each off spring as that off spring needs to be treated, doing what is required to let it grow. That being said, we are equally as animals. I really do not think that a parent says that’s the middle child so they aren’t as important.
Today we like to whine and complain, the loudest normally getting what they want. That’s sad. (The middle child is generally the most quiet, or so the experts say) I am not sure who the experts are, I am not sure what studies they undertook, I am not sure if they are a middle child themselves or not. I am not sure that what they think matters or what makes them an expert. I think we are who we are… but I am proudly no expert.
How to celebrate – Enjoy being the middle child. If you get frustrated by the way your parents treat you, try changing the way you treat them! Spend more time enjoying life, it’s way too easy to find all the things wrong with it.
We all know that when there are three or more children in a family there is the first born, the last born and all those in the middle. The oldest child is the one most pampered. All first time parents are so afraid they will do something wrong they dote over the child making sure they suffer nothing. By the time the parents get to the third, or last, child they have learned a thing or two and pretty much anything goes. The child, or children, in the middle get caught somewhere in between.
The birth order supposedly contributes to the 5 personality traits known to man – extroversion, neuroticism, agreeableness, conscientiousness, and openess. The oldest child tends to be a leader while the youngest will always be the baby. The middle child, once again being caught in the middle, has to fend for themselves and generally tends to be the most artistic and creative. Probably because they have had to learn to entertain themselves.
National Middle Child Day was created by Elizabeth Walker in the 1980’s. It was supposed to be the 2nd Saturday of August but somehow got placed on August 12th and has remained there ever since. She created the day to honor her middle son so that he could have special day of his own. It’s about time! I’m a middle child and I really need a day for myself! Or else…
… I could get very, very creative!
How to celebrate – If you have a middle child, let them know they are “special”. If you don’t have a middle child you might want to think about creating one! Tell your middle child that the oldest is really adopted, making them the oldest.