Today we celebrate our wives for who they are and what they bring to our lives. It was designed to replace Mother’s Day for those marriages that do not have children. (Or at least little ones) To me a mother and a wife are, in a way, two different people and we men need to celebrate our wives for being a wife as well.
When we are young a wife is there to support us and grow with us. They are the apple of our eye and we desperately want to be their hero. The thing is, they are more our heroine than we will ever be their hero. They do not marry us (Normally) because we are sexy, rich or will make all their dreams come true. (Of course there are exceptions)
By the time we reach our middle ages men realize they can no longer be that knight in shining armor but we still want to be. We certainly are as sexy and we often have forgotten what their dreams are. But they are still there making our dreams come true and they have shared or victories and defeats.
By the time we get older we begin to gripe about all that we could have done, or could have been and yet they are still beside us. Still routing us on even when we have no place left to go. Whether a woman has had an actual child to raise or not she has still remained a wife and raised a child… her husband.
So the old adage proves true, happy wife, happy life. Marriage is much more than having a child, in many ways a=it’s all about remaining a child and growing together… for better or for worse.
How to celebrate – Thank your wife for being your wife today. Fix dinner for your wife, or if you cook like me… take them out to dinner. Remember all the things your wife means to you, even when it sometimes seems impossible to do.
I am already sad. Remembering all the great friends I had over the years, all those family members. Some of those I was closest to were the pets I’ve had. (Not degrading the people relationships) I will recall a few here but there have been many.
When I lived in Illinois it was on a farm. We had a dog named Sailor who no one paid a lot of attention to. We had an inside dog but Sailor was an outside dog. When our inside dog got out and was run over and killed it was tough but suddenly Sailor began to get a lot of attention from us. He loved it and we loved him.
We had gone on many vacations before and Sailor always sat at home, waiting for our return. But when we started giving him the attention he deserved, and we went on vacation, he suddenly decided to follow us. He was hit by a car and died. He died because he loved us and we had finally loved him back.
I had another dog I called Puppy. He was an Australian Shepherd and after a rough start we became best friends ever. When he got old and could no longer walk, he would drag himself over to be just to be close. I was devastated when he died. He was my best friend. He had a good life, was loved and gave a lot of love back.
I am sure you have such memories yourself. I wish cats and dogs could live out their lives with us… but they can’t and that makes me very sad. The International Association of Pet Cemeteries and Crematories created today. My hope is they didn’t create to just make money because that degrades the memories we have of some of our best friends.
How to celebrate – Remember your pets, but don’t dwell on them, they are still with you in so many ways. Get a pet if you don’t have one. Say a prayer for your friends.
Today is the day where you can celebrate a good friend and a relative at the same time! It’s National Cousins Day! I remember every summer my cousins coming to visit on our farm in Illinois. It was always the best time of year. Yes, I was the youngest and they did some awful things to me but I still had fun.
They made me eat dog food, watch scary movies alone and then jump out at me and play hide and seeks where I was the only one they never tried to find… but still, I loved them and always had fun.
And normally, at some point in the summer, we would have a family reunion where I would meet cousins I didn’t even know I had! There was always great food, company and fun to be had.
But over the years, we lost contact with each other. It has been more than thirty years since I’ve seen them, twenty years since I’ve heard from them and probably ten years since I thought of them until today.
Don’t let that happen to you. They are a part of your family and therefore, a part of your life. My Aunt and Uncle have long since past away but my cousins, so far as I know, are still alive. I miss them and I do not even know how to find them.
How to celebrate – Contact your cousins. Have a family reunion. Keep a family tree.
Have you ever felt lonely? Of course you have, we all have. Maybe it lasts a day, a week or maybe even as long as a month… but can you imagine feeling lonely for years? Decades? A Century? There are those that do. There are those that feel lonely all the time, even in a crowded room.
Loneliness leads to depression because people need people. We all want someone to care whether we live or die, laugh or cry or even feel loved. After all, loneliness really is about feeling loved. That’s why you can feel alone in a crowded room, sure there are people there but would any of them miss you if you weren’t there?
We are all animals. There is nothing as sad as seeing a dog or cat sitting on the side of the road that looks like it’s lost it’s best friend. Well, it has, at least for the time being. But animals take on that Steven Stills attitude of “If You Can’t Be With The One You Love, Love The One Your With”. But people not so much so.
And just trying to fool someone doesn’t work. You have to really care, not just act like you care, and it’s not all that hard to do. Just showing someone that you care enough to take the time to show them some compassion. Just one person, you, can make a difference.
And then sometimes it’s just a matter of slapping someone in the face and telling them to cheer up! Just make darn sure that they aren’t bigger than you! (And I am not condoning violence.)
How to celebrate – Try and help someone you know may be lonely. Visit a retirement home. Rescue an animal that needs a home.
Tonight is the night to open that bottle of wine or champagne that you have been saving forever but never seem to get around to. What have you been saving it for!?! It’s time to open it up and share it with someone, a lover, friend or even a stranger if that’s all that is available!
I mean, if you think about it, what have you been waiting for? On top of that, why drink alone. If it’s that good, prove it to someone, if it’s not at least you’ll have someone to share your disgust with. Beverages are meant to be enjoyed, not stared at through a label.
This holiday was created by “Tasting’s” Dorothy J. Gaither and John Brecher, I assume, to get people to try the bottles of wine, champagne, scotch, bourbon… even sodas and see if it’s been worth waiting for.
It is nice to have that full wine cellar. It shows class and breeding and that you really aren’t an alcoholic because you haven’t already partaken of all that booze you have! But there is a point of, “what’s the point?”
Open That Bottle Night always comes on the last Saturday of February, so the date does change from year to year. Don’t miss it or you’ll have to wait another whole year to try that bottle of whatever it is you’ve been waiting for.
How to celebrate – Well… open that bottle up! Have a wine tasting party. Be sure to write down what you like, and forget what you don’t like!
By the time you finish saying what the day is, it may be over! I believe this is the longest title for a day I have run in to. Anyway, what a fun day (Depending on how it goes down)! You just need to find a puddle and a friend and you get the idea.
Of course a lot of it depends on whether you can find a puddle or not. This time of year it’s normally not to hard to do. It rains a lot in the south but up north, a lot of those puddles may be frozen. But snow melts pretty fast and even if you can’t find one in nature, you could create one of your own.
Next you need to find a friend who doesn’t mind getting splashed. I would advise not splashing someone on their way to a wedding or into work. It may also help if most of your friends are under ten years old. If you are say 50 and your friends are under 10 you may however want to make some better life choices.
You could sort of make it a religious experience. I doubt many will believe you but you could try. Or you could pretend that there are a bunch of bugs under the mud that you need to get rid of. Or maybe you are doing the traditional Peruvian mud dance and need spectators to make it a real experience.
Or you could just say, “What the heck” and trust spontaneity to get you through the moment. After-all, how mad could your friend get?
How to celebrate – Start by finding a puddle. Next find a friend. Make sure you wear your rubber goloshes.
Today we are thankful for all the blessings we have received in life. For our families, our friends, and our homes. And we should be since there are so many that do not have any of those things. They should never be taken for granted or accepted on face value. It is a time to celebrate those most important to us, and remember those less fortunate.
There is much ado about the Pilgrims and Indians in Plymouth in 1621 when the first Thanksgiving is generally believed to have taken place. That may, or may not be true, but that is not the point. It was two warring people who finally decided to become friends. It didn’t last for long though, but it started people thinking differently about their enemies.
That continued when Lincoln proclaimed the day in 1863 or 64. We were in the middle of a Civil War and yet we still had a lot to be thankful for. Now, the idea of celebrating Thanksgiving was not new, but setting it on a date when everyone would take part on the same day, was a new idea. It had been celebrated in late September or October in different states. Lincoln proclaimed the 4th Thursday of November as the date for Thanksgiving. It did not catch on everywhere for a while but it was a start.
Finally in 1941, Congress made Thanksgiving, the 4th Thursday in November, a national holiday (all that Lincoln had already proclaimed but now official). Stop and look around at some point today and look at all the things, and people, you have to be thankful for. You won’t regret it.
How to celebrate – Enjoy your family. Enjoy your friends. Stop reading this blog and go eat!