If you have ever been stuck in the middle of anything it’s often not very pleasant. To be the middle child is no exception. Parents are often very cautious with their first child, learning what to do and what not to do and doting on them when they really didn’t need to. When it comes to the second child, well they have learned and are less concerned with the daily activities, knowing better what worked the first time and what didn’t. By the time the third child has come along, generally speaking the parents have aged and the third child represents the end of the immediate family and are once again overly attentive. The middle child misses out on all that unintended lack of attention. It’s good and bad getting all those hand me downs and the lack of restrictions that are often seen as caring. It’s not true, but that is what is often makes the middle child feel less important.
How to celebrate – Make sure your middle child feels special today. If you have a daughter first, don;t hand down their old clothes to your second if hey are a boy. Reverse the order of your children from time to time, just for fun.
No it’s not their birthdays, unless their birthday happens to be today, this is a day to celebrate that you have a son or daughter, or both, just because they are there. At first your children need you because well, someone has to take care of them, then they resent you because, well… someone has to take care of them. Then the day comes when hopefully, your children just want to spend time with you, not because you are cool (because we all know you aren’t) but just… because. Today is your chance to honor them for who they are, who they will be or even who they might become. Expect them to be different than you, and that may be a good thing.
How to celebrate – Take your children to lunch. Save photos of your children as they grow. Find some common interest to share with you children.
It’s the little things in life that we often find we miss most when they are no longer available. That is the reason why we have to take advantage of them while we can. Today was created by Michelle Nicholes after she had the opportunity to hug her child one more time before he was gone. He died at 8 and 1/2 years old of cancer. It’s not fair but it happens. So you take advantage of every day you have with someone because you never know if it might be your last. It would be nice to have your last memory of them as an expression of love rather than pain. If your children are young, it’s pretty easy to get a hug, when they get older it’s more difficult. Take the time to give them a hug while you still can… because you never know.
How to celebrate – Hug your kids. Hug someone you love. Hug your pets.
Okay, so I am writing this blog in the US but that does not mean we can’t celebrate days from other countries, particularly one we are so close to! It is National Tell A Story Day in Scotland and the rest of the UK.
True, we do have our own Tell A Story Day here in the US but you really cannot get too many days where you tell a story to someone. I do, however, suggest avoid telling the “Hamilton” story in the UK. Even though he was sort of a Brit, they do not feel exactly the same as we do about his story.
There are plenty of other stories to tell. They can be fiction, non-fiction or whatever you feel most comfortable with. If you can’t find anyone to tell the story to, you can try telling it to your dog… but don’t expect them to stick around to the end unless you have a lot of treats.
It’s best to try and find a captive audience, at least when you start it. If you are a good story teller, you will capture their attention once you’ve gotten started, it’s the beginning that’s a little rough. The movie industry learned this the hard way. So today they like to start off with a lot of explosions and controversial scenes so people will stick around to hear the rest of the story.
Or maybe just find a child to read to, most love to hear a good story and like spending time with their parents, teachers and people they know. They will believe nearly anything you tell them so make sure it is a story worth hearing. And naturally, today you need to speak with a British or Scottish accent to honor the day in the UK.
How to celebrate – Find a story to tell somebody. Make up a story to tell somebody. Visit England/Scotland and have someone tell you a story today.
October 17th Take Your Parents To Lunch Day
How many times in your life have your parents taken you to lunch? If you count back to when you were a child, it’s probably a lot! Well today is your chance to pay hem back a little. It’s also a chance to catch up a little and let them know you care. It doesn’t have to be fancy, in fact your parents would probably prefer something cheaper because they want you to save that money. And in the end, you may actually get more out of the lunch than they do.
How to celebrate – Take your parents to lunch today. Make a picnic lunch today for your parents. Make lunch a surprise, take your parents someplace they’ve never been to today.
Today we celebrate our wives for who they are and what they bring to our lives. It was designed to replace Mother’s Day for those marriages that do not have children. (Or at least little ones) To me a mother and a wife are, in a way, two different people and we men need to celebrate our wives for being a wife as well.
When we are young a wife is there to support us and grow with us. They are the apple of our eye and we desperately want to be their hero. The thing is, they are more our heroine than we will ever be their hero. They do not marry us (Normally) because we are sexy, rich or will make all their dreams come true. (Of course there are exceptions)
By the time we reach our middle ages men realize they can no longer be that knight in shining armor but we still want to be. We certainly are as sexy and we often have forgotten what their dreams are. But they are still there making our dreams come true and they have shared or victories and defeats.
By the time we get older we begin to gripe about all that we could have done, or could have been and yet they are still beside us. Still routing us on even when we have no place left to go. Whether a woman has had an actual child to raise or not she has still remained a wife and raised a child… her husband.
So the old adage proves true, happy wife, happy life. Marriage is much more than having a child, in many ways a=it’s all about remaining a child and growing together… for better or for worse.
How to celebrate – Thank your wife for being your wife today. Fix dinner for your wife, or if you cook like me… take them out to dinner. Remember all the things your wife means to you, even when it sometimes seems impossible to do.
Having worked in the school system I know that like in any job there is, there are good teachers, and there are bad teachers. The good ones are there because it is a career for them, they want to teach and help others, the bad ones are those who just use it as a step to get to the next job. What the good ones have to do is beyond ridiculous. The mass of paperwork and responsibility of being better to peoples children than the parents are themselves is unreasonable.
Elementary school is a constant effort to get kids to pay attention, middle school is a constant effort to make a child realize they don’t already know everything and then high school is right back to trying to get children to pay attention again. The biggest problem is that as children get older, the more they think of themselves and the less they think at all!
It can be a demanding job physically but it is a constant mental strain. Since no two people are alike, the way to reach them is equally as different. Most class sizes are 26 people theses days and means you are dealing with 26 different identities at once.
True teachers are very special people, and not always found in schools. A good mechanic can be a great teacher, a musician can be a great teacher, a lawn care person can be a great teacher… but none of them have gone out with the idea that they are going to teach, they just happen to do it. To become a teacher and actually want to educate children rather than just get a paycheck is a very admirable position.
I admire those that commit themselves to making someone else grow and be better than they could be without help. And the stupid, stupid rules society forces educators to take only shows just how bad the teachers were when they went to school. And society is making it harder everyday. We need to understand we don’t deserve getting a good education, we earn the right to be taught.
How to celebrate – Thank a teacher for what they do. Learn what society actually puts a teacher through. Become involved with your child’s education.