Are you hurt more by a lie or by the truth? Of course we will all say we’d rather have the truth, but would we? We do pay the price of lies at some point. It could be the next day, maybe the next month or maybe even years down the line but we pay for them none the less. We often even find ourselves trying to sell a lie to ourselves!
In the mid 1990’s M. Hirsh Goldberg created Honesty Day. One day out of the entire year where we tell the truth no matter what that may lead to. Probably, someone saying they will use this day to tell the truth is telling a lie from the get go. Some lies we consider “white lies”, those little lies that aren’t going to hurt anyone and save so much hassle trying to explain what we meant by telling the truth.
When your mate asks you if they look good your answer generally will be yes because while they may look perfectly awful to you it is so much easier to say they look fine. It saves fighting, recriminations and hurt feelings. It was a lie but who really got hurt?
Politically our leaders lie to us all the time. Probably because we could not handle the truth or because the truth would be too hard to explain. Of course it was a video that got our people killed in Benghazi, oh wait no it wasn’t but it doesn’t really matter cause it’s done and over now and what really matters is what we do moving forward! Ah, it does matter cause if you don’t know what you did wrong to start with are you not likely to repeat it? But maybe you really do know what happened and you are lying to us again. And the people that say they are tired of hearing about it are lying, what they really mean is they don’t really care what happened so long as it doesn’t affect them directly. (Now before you get on your political high-horse the Republicans are just as bad, and that’s the truth.)
I had a friend tell me that the lie doesn’t matter, its the thought behind the lie. I’m still trying to figure that one out. I think what he meant was that if someone is lying to me to save me from the truth then it is a good thing. We are constantly lied to. By government, retail, well meaning friends, strangers, thieves, killers, con-artists (Though I guess technically they are thieves.), loved ones, people that hate us, people trying to buy something from us… it goes on and on and on. I guess we really can say that there is a common thread to everyone we ever come in contact with. Unfortunately, since that common thread is more often a lie than the truth, we really don’t know who, or what, they are trying to do to us. Confused? If you aren’t then that probably is a lie as well! We are so use to being lied to that when we are told the truth, we more often than not, don’t believe it!
How to celebrate: Tell the truth for a day, if you dare. Stop pretending whether you care if you are lied to or not. Don’t believe someone just because they say something. Do the research and find out if it is true or not before you place a blind belief in that person.